Today I was thinking that life was just a game. Of course, one should also think about severity, cruelty, and being serious. But according to Grazia magazine, , there are 3 things girls should forget when they want to engage in a relationship with a boy.
It seems one should abandon those techniques because it makes you look like shit.
Self-image is essential, and you could repeat yourself, “I’m talented …”. I’m a talented musician, but it seems it’s not enough: my music coach used to tell me you also have to work hard.
And maybe those techniques are just about that: you’re not working to make the relationship viable. We will examine those bad techniques using the working angle. And we all know we never want to work that hard: “I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times.” Just the way you are.
Technic #1: Play The Asocial Mysterious Girl.
Rather than go talk to him, you prefer to sit on your bench watching him from afar. But as soon as he advances, you send him to graze and answer only by monosyllables.
From the working point of view, even if you’re talented, we can clearly see nothing will happen. You’re not working at all. You might argue your existence demands lots of work, and you would expect someone to recognize this fact.
But we can clearly see you’re not working at all here.
It’s refreshing to be talented because maybe you don’t have to work as others do. But at some point you will work: even Michael Jordan had a strong work ethic. For the inspiration, I’m doing like Jimi Hendrix: I try to get up every day. And Hendrix created new words with his guitar.
Technic #2: Make Your Partner Jealous.
I know a lot about this technic: one of my former partners wanted to make me jealous. But it really didn’t work out, and I ditched her like she was the witch queen of New Orleans.
Making people jealous is a bit strange when you think about it. But I guess it can happen naturally even though here we’re talking about consciously and knowingly making someone jealous.
Here from the working angle, you are transferring all the work to your partner while you will sit on a couch and watch The Bold and The Beautiful. This technic is close to the absurdity of prostitution.
Take, for example, the music: when I listen to Jimi Hendrix, I’m not jealous. I appreciate what he does, and I try to understand. Of course, I try to play his songs note for note. Do you think Hendrix wanted to make me jealous with his mastery of guitar? No, he worked a lot before the Experience, and that’s why there’s a bit of soul in his music.
Technic #3: Make Your Potential Partner Wait.
I know you have a busy life. And sharing a few moments with you is somewhat extraordinary. But if you want to be in a relationship, your partner needs to know that you have time to spare. Otherwise, who wants to be in a relationship with someone who won’t have time for kids?
I get it: it’s been 3 years since you’ve knocked on the door. You don’t want to wait in vain, and you feel a bit lonely. But those who don’t have time will never find love. Take, for example, my case: I used to have a few friends, go to school and see my family for holidays. But as soon as I had a little time, I was listening to music or practicing the guitar.
I even managed to listen to music while studying or playing on the computer.
So maybe if you want to be in a relationship, you need to be able to do 2 things at the same time: take care of you and take care of him. It shouldn’t make you work that hard.
How Much Work Does A Relationship Need?
Yes, you’re talented, and doing some things you shouldn’t do doesn’t mean a thing. But you have to work. A strong work ethic will allow you to get better and better.
When a relationship is making you work too hard, it’s time to sit down and relax. You must forget the link, and you will find a solution. But the 3 techniques I mentioned seem like a real problem.
If life is just a game, then I guess it’s not really a big problem. Of course, the outcome of the flirt could make you wonder if this a good thing. But we all need goto moves to have that high percentage humanity.
I noticed that I have healthier relationships with people and women when sex, money, and debate is taken out of the equation.
It would help if you also had confidence: confidence in yourself, trust in others, and also confidence in authorities.